They look completely different and need completely different responses. This quick guide walks you through what you're seeing right now and what will actually help.
Answer honestly based on what's happening in this moment. There are no wrong answers.
This is a supportive guide, not a diagnostic tool. You know your child best. Trust that.
Question 1 of 5
What does their body look like right now?
A
Moving a lot, intense energy outwardHitting, throwing, biting, screaming, physically difficult to be near
B
Very still, collapsed, retreatedBarely moving, slumped, going somewhere quiet, refusing to engage
C
Hard to say, switching betweenStarted one way and shifted, or it's unclear
Question 2 of 5
When you speak to them or try to make eye contact, what happens?
A
They react to it, possibly escalateYour voice or presence seems to make things more intense
B
No response or very delayedLike they can't hear you, or they look through you
C
UnpredictableSometimes reacts, sometimes nothing
Question 3 of 5
What was happening just before this started?
A
A specific trigger, demand, or sensory eventSomething happened and this is the direct response to it
B
They'd been holding it together for a whileLong day, lots of demands, gradual build-up of overwhelm
C
Not sure, or it seems like bothA trigger happened during an already full day
Question 4 of 5
Their facial expression and eyes right now?
A
Distressed, tearful, overwhelmedFear or frustration visible, a lot of feeling showing
